Making love out of nothing at all

When you think back on your teenage years, I bet there are a couple of songs that stand out as your ultimate romantic songs. Songs you knew every word to; a special song that was playing in the background when you shared your first kiss. Or if you are my age, a song that reminds you of sitting in the back of a car at the drive-in “making out” with your first love...

For me one such song is Air Supply’s “Making love out of nothing at all” which must rate as one of the corniest songs ever, but when 14 and totally in love, had the potential to invoke the most intense emotional and often even physical reactions!

But this blogpost is not about reminiscing about teenage romantic songs. It is however rather to share how the possibility of “making love out of nothing at all” (yes, mostly in a motorhome/car!!) can have the same intense emotional and physical reactions as such songs!
When travelling for an extended period of time in a foreign country (think limited luggage, let alone sex toys!) and living in a motorhome and yes I mean LIVING (driving, cooking, cleaning, sleeping!) in a MOTORHOME (converted kombi, so size of a big dining room table!) for 10 weeks, when the average night temperature hovers around zero degrees, coupled with often limited privacy due to other campers camping in the near vicinity, love making truly takes on a rather challenging nature...
So without too much detail but having given you the background, here is how my husband and I “made love out of nothing at all” and decided our vehicle should have a sign “When rocking, don’t come a knocking!”
We would play endless card games and without fail the loser’s forfeit would entail some kind of “sex gift”. But due to said circumstances above, “payment time” would often be deferred, so we would keep a “score sheet, accumulate points” and talk about it so often that it would drive us both crazy!
Sometimes I’d get back in the vehicle and there would be a couple of wild flowers on my seat that he picked while I was having a bush wee...
And some nights we simply wrote “love notes” on each other’s backs while spooning to get warm...

DRAGON SEX

The Chinese Year of the Dragon began on Monday.

Let’s explore this legendary creature in relation to our sexual behaviours for this auspicious year and connect to our “inner dragon.”

The Oriental Dragon is regarded as:

A Divine Beast
 Feel that “dragon energy” – fiery, feisty and goddess like - be the divine beast you are

A Free Spirit Aim for free and uninhibited “no holds barred” sex

A Creature who demands a lot and gives a lot
Enough said – work it, give it, and raise your expectations in the bedroom

Mystical, Intuitive and Artistic
Inspirational words - bring an inimitable touch of magic into your sexual encounters, respond to your intuitiveness and express your creativity

Passionate and libidinous
Go all out and share your passion on a grand scale – bring back the fire – reignite your libido if it’s waning – exercise, de-stress, meditate. Treat yourself to a long pampering bath and fall in love again. Light candles, read an erotic novel, share a box of endorphin boosting chocolates and indulge in our fabulous The Bedroom erotic products

A Creature with an exotic air
Think exotic, erotic and exude sexuality – you are likely to reap the benefits and bring a new spark into an existing relationship

Vital
Vitality is the key – keep your health and energy levels in check this year, don’t sweat the small stuff. Imagine you are a powerful dragon!

Try a new sex position called ‘The Dragon!’ (cosmopolitan.com)

Lie on your stomach with your arms raised above your head. With a pillow or two placed under your pubic bone, spread your legs slightly. Your partner stretches his body over yours and enters you, mimicking your position. This steamy stance requires a circular, swirling thrust motion which will slowly electrify your vagina. It’s a great one to try for delaying a climax and to savour the feel of each other’s bodies. He can explore neglected areas like your back and the base of your neck with his lips, tongue and even teeth. Best of all, this him-on-top is all about you, you, you.

Match the speed of his sensual swirling with your hips and your bodies will move as one big, undulating sexual monster – oops – Dragon!

I love my boobs!

I have a confession to make.  I'm one of those women who can run a business, be a friend, family member, mother to canines, etc., etc. BUT I often run out of time to do things for me.  Despite telling women everyday to put themselves first most of the time, I confess I seldom do!

So finally, this weekend I did something that is WAY overdue!  I visited Liza Clifford's Professional Bra Fitting Studio and I have to say I'm a total convert!

Those who know me personally may have noticed my weight loss over the last 6 months or so ... and I'm embarrassed to say I have worn my old 36DD bras through the whole process.  For literally about the last two months I have moaned frequently about my ill fitting bras, and have become somewhat of an expert at pushing my boobs practically under my arm pits to keep them in my too loose and too small cupped bras!  No more!

Liza owns a fitting studio in Kloof, I don't know what I expected but was pleasantly surprised when I arrived to a laid back and welcoming studio in her home.  Never one to be too shy to flash my boobies, I liberated them from the old 36DDs and Liza whipped out the measuring tape and informed me I was actually a 32F - I knew I was in the wrong bras but hells bells - didn't realise they were so wrong!  Now bear in mind, different style bras (even within the same range) can fit you differently, the fabric and styling can change the fit, so it is essential to try a selection for the best fit ... I ended up with a 32E and 34E all from the Freya range.

I was horrified when I put my old bra back on to get dressed - why was I even bothering - the thing offered no support whatsoever!

They say a correctly fitting bra will take 5kgs off your silhouette - all I know is I'm suddenly walking taller and feeling more confident without worrying about a nip slip episode or whether half my breast is out of my too small cups!  I don't get out the car and pull my cups up to try get my boobs in anymore!  What am I going to do with my fidget time now???

If you're in Durban, get yourself over to see Liza, she's delightful and the kind of woman we love, she's just as passionate about changing your life with a brassiere as we are about changing it with vibes!

Because I know you probably want to know what I got - I got the Red Deco Freya bra pictured above - hello I work in The Bedroom - of course I had to go red - if you need a Valentine's spoil - this is a goodie!  And I also got the Polly Anna bra pictured below in black and white ... I look forward to growing my collection with many more CORRECTLY fitting bras in future ... consider me converted and educated ... oh and LIFTED!

Screaming orgasms all round please!

No, not the cocktail!  You're reading the wrong blog!  I mean the toe curling, body rocking, bliss inducing orgasms we all want and deserve.  And we can achieve if we wish to!  I have two very simple suggestions to get you on the path to achieving orgasms of the Earth moving sort ...

SCREAM!  MOAN!  GRUNT!  WHINE!  Whatever works for you ... but VOCALISE!

That is secret number one if you feel the need for a better than the average orgasm ... it sounds corny and unbelievable but just humour me and try it!  Too many of us have got into the habit of restraining ourselves vocally when making love because there are kids, family, housemates, etc. in the house!  So much so that when you have the house to yourself, you still clamp your jaw shut, purse your lips together and have a silent orgasm. If you actually allow yourself to shout out or moan as you are having an orgasm, this often triggers a far deeper and longer orgasm!  So ... if you're too embarrassed to try this here are some techniques to make you more comfortable ... put on some music loudly - perhaps something thumping - not the soft romantic sort this time - and feel free to vocalise however you are comfortable to as you are nearing orgasm.  Also ... if you feel silly screaming or moaning ... choose a word or a phrase and simply use that to vocalise ... it can be your partner's name, yes, no, oh God, you know ... the usual ... and whatever you're comfortable with.

PANT!  WHEEZE!  INHALE!  EXHALE!  Just BREATHE!

Secret number two is to vary your breathing.  How many times have you found yourself holding your breathe when making love?  A simple thing like changing your breathing can prolong, deepen or hasten your orgasm ... because your body is gearing to respond to the physical clues your system is getting.  Simply put, if you want to hurry an orgasm, pant and tense your muscles ... your body will invariable hasten to orgasm, if you want to slow down your journey ... breathe deeply and slowly and relax your muscles.  It's that simple.

Now, go experiment ...

Start out breathing deeply and not vocalising too much and then kick your play into high gear with panting and screaming ... see where it takes you ... enjoy the journey!

More Sex!

Now that the festive holidays are over, we are all returning to our normal routines!

With this – we all have less time for sex!!

Well hopefully by now you have all set up and started on your new year’s resolutions, however here is one I would like to add to all of our lists!!!

Don’t let your demanding life control your sex life too!!

Here is how we will stick to the” more sex” resolution!

A few ingredients that we will need for the year:
Wicked Chocolate sauce

Shunga Secret Garden Female Orgasm Cream 

Shunga Intimate kisses 

Wireless remote control toys
Discreet and petite toys

A few suggestions.....
When you feel a bit frisky at work – The Lelo Mia will be your friend! Mia is also USB rechargeable and looks like a discreet memory flash drive, her vibration options will keep you smiling at work.
Alternatively use a wireless remote control toy, where no one in the office will hear the vibration or have any idea of what you getting up too.
If you are a single gall like me, the time of play does not matter – as much and as often as you like! 

If you have a partner that you go home to – I would like to suggest that because the routine is back to cooking, homework with the kids etc. 

That we have a even shorter time for foreplay. Start your foreplay as soon as you get home.
The wireless remote control toy is ideal – give your partner the remote control so that he can change the settings while you do the cooking 

Let the kids eat, bath and go to bed...

By that time you are ready for desert.... Pick your choice between the Wicked Chocolate Sauce or the Shunga Intimate Kisses. Paint or coat your partner’s penis with the choice of desert – and enjoy. In a few seconds he will be is just as ready as you.
Enjoy and devour each other, have a bath and jump blissfully into bed

P.S this routine suggestion will only work if you turn off the TV!

P.S.S Never forget the Shunga Orgasm Cream

Sex Talk...

We should all know by now that communication is the key to good sex, but we still don’t seem to practice it half as much as we should, if at all. Even in our modern era, talking about what we want when it comes to sex can still be difficult.

Yip, communication around sex is tricky but the best place to start is by being BRAVE enough to say something...anything...to your partner!

Not a Mind Reader
"Women are aware of their erogenous zones -- the backs of the legs, neck and behind the ears -- and they generally need these areas to be stimulated before they can become aroused below the belt," explains Laura Berman, Ph.D., sex therapist. "Men, on the other hand, focus mainly on their erection as the center of their sexuality -- they often don't realize how much touching their partners need before being hot enough for more advanced foreplay, let alone intercourse."
Guiding your partner with vocal instructions WILL improve your sex life, but there is one important ground rule. No lover has ever welcomed the phrase “I hate it when you do (that).” Rather try to keep all requests on a positive note, they will be very open to the request, “I’d love it if you’d do (this).”

Body-Map
Body-map each other. Draw two figures on separate pieces of paper. Without looking at each other's drawings, mark the areas on their body where you think they like to be touched. Now compare notes.

Sexting
Start sexting. You can begin with something simple and "gentle" like, "I'm thinking about you." Then, when he responds, tell him exactly what you're thinking about.

Erotica
Once your confidence is up, consider reading a bedtime story to your partner ... Pick up a book of erotica and take turns reading passages out loud to each other...who knows what fun you might stir up!

Come on ladies, be brave. This is your chance, open your mouth and just say it. Your sex-life WILL thank you ;-)

Jet lagged dirty talk

If you’ve never suffered from jet lag, count yourself very lucky! Should you ever be at a loss for wishing misfortune upon a wrong doer, jet lag could be what you’re after! The fatigue and sleep disturbance result in the kind of affliction that really puts ones sense of humour, patience and mental resolve to the ultimate test! In a nutshell, it is the bad and the ugly...

During a recent trip abroad, both my husband and I actually fantasised about sleeping in our own bed!  Obviously we hadn’t factored jet lag into our fantasy, so the emphasis was around our “bed”, not so much the “sleeping” part.

Upon our return, our first night back in our own bed was pure bliss! As for the sleep part; not so much, courtesy jet lag and resident Hadedas! My fantasy of “sleeping in our own bed” became a singularly focussed one of simply sleeping...all I want is to sleep...a long, very long, peaceful, deep sleep...

So when we got into bed the second night and said husband started making non-sleep moves, I turned to him and with closed eyes said, “Want some dirty talk? Here is a jet lagged version - Just pull the nighty down when you’re done”!!

The myth of the Milf

When asking men about fantasies, somehow the topic of the Milf seems to take the leading role.

And in it also seems to be quite a large slice in the adult porn industry.

I understand men and woman’s fantasies differ but I wanted to know why so I decided to try and find out why The Milf seems to be a very frequent fantasy for men around the world.

 

I asked a few men I knew about this “milf” myth and they didn't really have an answer for me. They all seemed rather embarrassed about it and mumbled things under their breath when I asked questions.

 

I personally think there is nothing wrong with wanting a Milf. 

She is older and hopefully more experienced; she has looked after her body and aged well so she looks smoking hot and definitely worth a good shag and she has the confidence to make most guys need a change of underpants because she knows all of the above.

 

Is it an old teacher they had at school that may have been a super fox?

Is it because she is something they cannot get?

Is it a vision of a beautiful older woman that they have crossed paths with and would like to rendezvous with at a later stage?

Or is it simply because they are men and if a woman is smoking hot, attractive and older then age is only but a number?

 

Personally I think it is all the above and I say go forth young men and find yourself a Milf if you are single and needing to fulfil that desire and fantasy.

On a personal note: I’m going to be a Milf one day. And I am going to work it baby!!



Am I a nymphomaniac? Hypersexuality uncovered!

Have you ever found yourself wondering whether you are a nymphomaniac?  I find it rather telling that we never question an "over-sexed" man's wellness, but should a woman start wanting sex frequently, she gets labelled a "nympho" and we are immediately looking for medical or psychological reasons for this "unnatural" state.

I myself am guilty of this, having recently come off of the contraceptive pill after 20 years of being on it, my hormone levels have obviously adjusted and I find myself constantly aroused and thinking of sex far more than usual (even in this interesting business of mine!), and rushed off to Google a couple of days ago to try and find the cause of my "condition".

Unfortunately, there is no definitive answer to the question "How much is too much?", as you can imagine sexologists and specialists differ in their opinions.  What is normal for one, someone else may view as excessive.  For some masturbation/sex once a week is more than adequate, and for some multiple times a day is their norm.  The only guideline experts offer is that it's not something you need to be concerned about unless it starts affecting your lifestyle, and by this they mean cancelling plans or activities you would normally do in order to stay home and masturbate or have sex.  Even this definition I find unhelpful ... I mean if you decide to skip gym and sleep in a few times - no-one would suggest you're suffering from a "disorder", but if you skip gym and stay in bed masturbating a few times could that be construed as a "disorder"?

I'm a firm believer in the "A masturbate a day keeps the doctor away" ethos, and in a good relationship I'm a "sex twice a day" kinda gal ... but recently with these hormones going crazy have found myself masturbating multiple times a day (sadly I am single so no partner is currently benefiting), and thinking about sex frequently during the day (I think I finally get how guys think - and I must confess I like it!), so how much is too much?

As you can tell, there are more questions than answers in this debate.  So let's open the debate, comment anonymously if you prefer, but do tell us your thoughts and experiences ...

How much is too much?  What's your norm?

BOOBS & BUMS

Boobs, Bums, Bellies, Bikinis, Bimbos, Bodybuilders, Beauties, Beer Boeps, Biceps, Burnt Bodies….

All the B’s that present themselves at the Beach come summertime at the coast.

There’s the Big mama who wears a sarong (or is it a tablecloth?) draped and tied tightly around her neck yet hiding very little of her excess weight as the wind blows the cloth in waves over her large body. The Baby at her feet sits happily swirling his chubby fingers through the sand.

Daddy clutches his Beer and judging from the size of his swollen Boep, has probably not let go of “beer in hand” since he sat at the wheel of his moerse 4 x 4 and hit the coastal road.

I glance up at my hubby and his mate who are mesmerized as they gaze at the Brazilian looking Bombshell who bares practically all in her slip of a thong bikini – her firm, bronzed Butt cheeks glowing and rippling ever so slightly as she strides along the edge of the surf. I cannot deny she is sexy – memories of bygone days my man – yes, I had the good Bum too once upon a time – which is now drooping further and further south – damn gravity!?

Her Boobs are luscious, perky and Burnt Bronze …. Kudos to her for enjoying her body and proudly displaying her beauty before her inevitable trip down south in the not too distant future.

She walks hand in hand with her Bodybuilder male friend who resembles a Bouncer – the type that pays more attention to his protein shake diet, his Men’s Health Magazine and gym time than to her – no turn on for me!

The Body conscious gawky teenager takes a tentative walk across the beach fearfully conscious that all and sundry are looking at her. Hope she evolves into a confident woman who embraces her curves or lack thereof someday.

I would imagine many people have a love/hate relationship with beach time – baring one’s body creates vulnerability – a form of exposure many of us dread. Bugger that – we’re all Beautiful, sexy human Beings – Beach time is fun time, sexy time, free to bare all time … let go and just BE!

Here's to a VERY sexy 2012...

Whether New Years Resolutions are normally your thing or not, "Sex-Make-Over" resolutions are a whole different story. When the side effects threaten: a Year Of Pleasure, Better Health, More Happiness etc, I can't see a good reason not to give them a try?

Redecorate
Look around your bedroom - does this room make you feel sensual and sexy? If not, it’s time for a change. Get your creative juices flowing, choose fabrics, incense, artwork, mirrors, music, candles, pillows etc which create the effect that brings out your sexual animal.

Out With The Old
An underwear raid is in order! Go through your cupboard and in the spirit of the new year, use an “out with the old, in with the new” mentality. Treat yourself to a few new sexier pieces, or start wearing regularly the ones you would normally save for special occasions. Sexier underwear WILL make you feel sexier.

Make The Time
Make sex a top priority. When your schedule seems it won’t allow it — find the time.

Speak Up
Speak up about what you want and like. Your partner is not a mind reader. How can they possibly make your fantasies come true if they doesn’t know what they are.

Try Something New
What have you got to lose?? Tuck that inhibition away and try that thing you’ve always wanted to try. It doesn't have to be extreme, even just a small step in the right direction can go a long way.

Here's wishing you all a FABULOUS and VERY SEXY 2012 xx

Spit or Swallow??

Now I have hardly been a woman that swallows.. Actually I have never been a woman that loves giving a blow job!

Recently with my lover I discovered a few more things about me and a man’s penis! I am in love!
It is like tasting candy for the first time...you want more, and you look forward to having more!
Now with the few precious moments we have together, it is a bit like being in a candy shop... So much to try, taste and discover.

He discovered if he removes his hand or pull away from my vagina too suddenly that he scares her... (Yes I literally get a fright)
So far.. I discovered that when I make love to his penis with my mouth and pull away close to ejaculation that it scares his penis the way it scares my vagina!

What my lover shared with me changed it all! I certainly don't like the fright my vagina gets, and he is conscious of how he treats her. Now after understanding a few more things about the penis (doubt this one in particular) my mouth has acquired a new taste for pleasuring.

After sharing with him the new dreams my mouth has, (no complaints from him), we do the dance spectacularly!

Please spoil your partner with this most intimate way of making love, not just during the holidays... whenever the opportunity arises!!

Products that you can combine with this delight...And make it more pleasurable for both of you

Blow Job in a bag from The Bedroom
Shunga Intimate Kisses Aphrodisiac Oil

Shunga Divine Oral Pleasure Gloss 

Wicked Chocolate Sauce & Brush Set 

Flavoured lubricants
The old and famous 69 position
And if you are in the old style - on your knees spice it all up with a toy giving you internal or external stimulation!

And please don't fret about the calories! You will shake it all off in round two!